Lost for words?

Advice on writing your wedding invitation

Explore this page for some guidelines on invitation wording. And although there are many traditions and it may appear daunting at first, writing your wedding invitation is rather quite easy. Remember, it is your day and it is more important your wedding invite reflects your style, rather than uphold a tradition that doesn’t reflect you or your finacee. Increasingly, people no longer feel tradition-bound when deciding on wording for their wedding invitations. To help you get started, check out the examples and advice below.

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Wedding invitation example wording

Sample 1 – Ceremony and Reception at the same venue.

Dean & Debbie
together with their families,
take pleasure in inviting
(space for guests name)
to share in the celebration of their wedding
on Monday 10 March, 2012
at Mantells, 52 Mt Eden Road, Mt Eden Village
The ceremony will begin at 5pm and will be followed by
dinner and dancing into the evening

Kindly RSVP by 31 January 2012 to
Debbie or Dean on (09) 222 2222
or debbie@website.co.nz

Sample 2 – Ceremony and Reception at different venues.

Dean & Debbie
together with their families,
take pleasure in inviting
(space for guests name)
to share in the celebration of their wedding
on Monday 10 March 2012, 3pm
at St Mathews Church, 46 Main Street, Auckland
The ceremony will be followed by dinner and dancing from 6pm
at Mantells, 52 Mt Eden Road, Mt Eden Village

Kindly RSVP by 31 January 2012 to
Debbie or Dean on (09) 222 2222
or debbie@website.co.nz

Sample 3 – Pledge of love

Debbie Ann Brown
and
Dean John Smith
will pledge their love as one
on Saturday, Fifteenth of November
Two Thousand and Twelve
at St Mathews Church, Glen Eden, at two pm
and reception afterwards at
The Sheraton Hotel at six pm.
Our joy will be more complete if
(space for guests name)
can share this celebration with us.

Kindly RSVP by 31 January 2012 to
Debbie or Dean on (09) 222 2222
or debbie@website.co.nz

Sample 4 – Fresh beginnings

A fresh new day, and it is ours,
a day of happy beginnings.
Debbie
and
Dean
would love the pleasure of the company of
(space for guests name)
when they pledge their love as one
at St. Leo's Church, Glen Eden
on Saturday 15 November 2012 at 2.30 pm
and reception afterwards at
The Sheraton Hotel at 6.00 pm

Kindly RSVP by 31 January 2012 to
Debbie or Dean on (09) 222 2222
or debbie@website.co.nz

Sample 5 – Invite from Brides Parents

Mr. and Mrs. Frank Harris
request the pleasure of
(space for guests name)
company
at the marriage of their daughter
Debbie Ann Brown
to
Dean John Smith
on Saturday, Fifteenth of November
Two Thousand and Twelve
at St Mathews Church, Glen Eden, at two pm
and reception afterwards at
The Sheraton Hotel at six pm.

Kindly RSVP by 31 January 2012 to
Debbie or Dean on (09) 222 2222
or debbie@website.co.nz

Sample 6 – Eloped

Time moves so quickly and so, too, does life
Our days were filled, our schedules too
so we ran off and said our I do's!
Debbie Brown
and
Dean Smith
eloped on 20 July, 2012
(space for guests name)
your presence is requested as we celebrate
our beach side vow renewal and reception
Saturday, 15 November 2012
at 5:30 in the evening
at Pauanui Beach
Coromandel

Kindly RSVP by 31 January 2012 to
Debbie or Dean on (09) 222 2222
or debbie@website.co.nz

Traditions

Tradition – Who the invite is from

The basic rule is - whoever is contributing towards the cost of the wedding should have their names included on the invitation. If both sets of parents are contributing to your wedding financially you may with to consider adding their names to your invitations, eg:

Mr & Mrs M. Smith
together with
Mr & Mrs A. Brown
invite you to join them in celebrating the marriage of
Jill & Jack

Jill & Jack
together with their parents
Mr & Mrs M. Smith and Mr & Mrs A. Brown
invite you to join them in celebrating their marriage

Jill & Jack
together with their parents
invite you to join them in celebrating their marriage


If the bride's parents are hosting the wedding you could write:

Mr & Mrs M. Smith
invite you to join them in celebrating the marriage of their daughter
Jill Amber Smith
to
Jack Michael Brown

If the parents are divorced you can separate the names

(eg. Mr Martin Smith & Mrs Jan Rodgers together with...)

Tradition – Phrasing

Use the phrase "honour of your presence" when your ceremony is to be held in a house of worship. For more informal ceremonies, "pleasure of your company" is appropriate.

Tradition – The Bride and Groom's name

It was traditional to spell out first, middle and last names, however it is now just as common to write just the bride and groom's first names. Go with what feels right for you.

Tradition – Date and time

Most of our invitations are formatted like this:

on 27 Saturday March 2012
at 3.00 pm

Traditionalists may prefer the date in full, ie:

on Saturday the twenty-seventh of March, two thousand and twelve
at three o'clock post meridian

Tradition – Addressing envelopes

The envelopes are typically addressed with full names, avoiding nicknames or abbreviations. A formal exception to the rule is if a guest uses their middle name as their full name, and their given name as an initial.

Ms. (or Miss) Emily Palmer
Mr. and Mrs. Andrew Coleman
Mr. and Mrs. E. Thomas Welsh

In addressing clergymen, military officers and medical doctors, use their titles in full.

Reverend and Mrs. George Harris
Rabbi and Mrs. Jacob Cohen
Doctor and Mrs. Lawrence Jones
Doctors Jones (if both are doctors)
Major and Mrs. Edgar Prescott

Tradition – Inviting children

If the couple's children are invited, include their first names according to their ages.

Mr. and Mrs. Welsh
& Evan and Elizabeth

If you are not inviting children, you may want to call the parents to let them know in advance. It is inappropriate etiquette to write "No Children" on an invitation or envelope.

Tradition – When to send

Mail your invitations 6-8 weeks before your wedding. If your wedding is being held on a holiday weekend or at a popular destination guests may need 6-10 months notice so they can reserve the date and book accommodation far in advance.

Traditions for save the date and wedding thank you cards

To learn more about save the date and wedding thank you cards, use the appropriate button in the left column to navigate to these pages.

Insert cards and extra information text

Sometimes you need to tell your guests some additional information that won't fit onto the invitation itself. In such cases we reccommend including an insert card with your invite.

Information you may want to include on an insert card.

• Gift registry information
• Following day functions
• Directions to the venue
• Information about local accommodation

Most of this information you will need to write yourself as it will be unique to your wedding, but here are some examples of gift registry text that may be helpful:

Gift Registry Sample 1

Your company at our wedding is gift enough but people have been asking us what we would like. Since we have all of the household items that we could want, we have [commissioned a piece of art as a memoir of our special day]. If you feel you would like to make a contribution to the [painting], then please contact [person to contact] on [their contact details] for more information.

Gift Registry Sample 2

Because at first we lived in sin,
we've got the sheets and a rubbish bin.
A gift from you would be swell,
but we'd prefer a donation to our Wishing Well!

Gift Registry Sample 3

Many of our guests have enquired,
For a gift idea to be inspired.
Like many couples today,
We have most things anyway.
If you would like to give, it is our request
For something for our treasure chest.

Please see our 'gift registry' at [Freedom Furniture]

RSVP cards

Most of our invitations are formatted so that the RSVP details are on the invite and a special RSVP card is not required. Each invitation has a space for the name(s) and contact details of the person to RSVP to and a date to do this by. Traditionalists or those who need to gather extra information (such as dietary requirements etc) may prefer to include a separate RSVP card so that their guests can mail their response.

When writing your RSVP text consider are people going to rsvp to you, a bridesmaid or a parent? What details do you want to include? Phone number, cell phone number, email?

RSVP if included on the invite

Kindly RSVP Julie by 4 September 2015
tel (09) 222 222 or julie@website.co.nz

Seperate RSVP card

Name(s)

Accept with pleasure
Decline with regret

Meal Choice:
Beef
Vegetarian
Chicken

Song request that'll get you on the dancefloor!

Will you be using the bus that has been arranged?
Yes
No

Please return to:
Dean and Debbie, 3 Foggy Road, Sydney, Australia

 

Quotes

The romantics among us make like to add a quote to their wedding invite. Use your own or copy and paste from the selection below.

Together, we wrote our names in the sand and the waves washed them away, so we will write them in our hearts and there they will stay.
 
Love doesn't make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile. - Franklin P. Jones
 
I have found the one my soul loves. (Song of Solomon)
 
The rose speaks of love silently, in a language known only to the heart.
 
Love is a friendship set to music. – E. Joseph Cossman
 
A heart that loves is always young. (Greek Proverb)
 
On this day I will marry my friend. The one who shares my dreams, life and love.
 
To get the full value of joy you must have someone to divide it with – Mark Twain
 
Now join your hands, and with your hands your hearts. – William Shakespeare
 
Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. – Aristotle
 
There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved. – George Sand
 
In true love the smallest distance is too great, and the greatest distance can be bridged. – Hans Nouwens
 
What lies behind us, and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
 
You are my blue sky, my wind and rain, my thunder and lightning.

Save-the-date cards

Save the date cards are used when you want to inform people that you've got a ring on your finger and wedding bells are in the air. These pre-invitation cards officially announces your wedding date and lets guests know that they will be invited to your wedding.

When should I use them?

Even though you may not have decided upon the venue and other details may be still up in the air a save-the-date card gives your guests a head's up and allow's people know to do just that – save the day for your upcoming wedding. They are especially useful in the following situations:

• Destination weddings when your guests will need plenty of time to make their travel arrangements.
• Three-day weekends or public holidays when people might otherwise make plans for.
• If you're marrying during high-travel or summer in a beach town.
• If you suspect your guests have very busy schedules and would appreciate advance notice.

When do you send them?

Generally it's best to start spreading the news at around six months prior to the ceremony (eight months for a faraway destination). This gives wedding guests plenty of time to book their travel, save a bit of cash, and ask for days off from work. Any earlier, and they may toss the notice aside. Any later, and it might as well be an invitation.

Save-the-date wording

Your wedding save-the-date wording doesn't have to be anything exceptionally formal. Keep it simple and keep it short is our advice. You may want to include a short poem or a quote. Be sure to include "Invitation to follow" at the bottom of your wedding save-the-date card and guests will know there's more to come. Here are a few examples:

Save-the-date examples

Example 1

Jack and Jill
are getting married
on July 5, 2010
Queenstown, NewZealand
Invitation to follow

Example 2

Jack and Jill
are getting married
on July 5, 2010
Queenstown, NewZealand
Invitation to follow

Example 3

Times are busy
and calendars are full
Rosemary O'Brien and Stephen Anderson
want you to know they are planning their wedding
for 17th March 2010 in Fiji
Invitations to follow

Example 4

We're taking the plunge!
Hope you'll be there to celebrate our flight.
Jack & Jill say "I Do"
July 5, 2010 Waiheke Island
Invitation to follow

Example 5

He proposed ...
she said 'Yes'!
Jack + Jill will tie the knot
July 5, 2010 Wellington
Invitation to follow

Example 6

A date to remember!
August 26 2007
Please save the date
for the wedding of Tracey Rae and John Nelson in Wellington.
Invitation to follow

Thank you cards

Most of our thank you cards simply say the words 'thank you' as it is traditional for your message to be personal and therefore this is typically hand written.
The thank you message should be enthusiastic and sincere, include the names of both the bride and groom and contain either of the following.

When given money

If you receive cash, cheques, contributions to savings accounts, or donations to charities, you have the option of mentioning the amount. Doing so will assure the giver that you received the intended amount, however some people prefer not to mention the amount as this can sometimes seem impolite. The choice is yours.

When given gifts

You should thank the guest as if you were thanking them in person and make reference to the person as well as the gift. It is perfectly acceptable to write from the heart and to be humorous.